Things to Avoid Talking About On a First Date
You might think that talking about your ex on a first date is a good way to break the ice. But trust us, it's not. In fact, there are many things you should avoid talking about if you want to make a good impression. Here are just a few of them...
Politics - unless you're both on the same page, this can be a touchy subject
It's never an easy task to discuss politics with family and friends. It's nearly impossible to get everyone on the same page-- something that many of us have experienced one way or another. From lively debates to a complete breakdown in communication, this touchy subject can quickly spark up heated conversations, especially when your loved ones don't share the same views as you do! But at least at the end of the day, everyone is still talking, and there's still love in the air.
Religion - best to steer clear of this one unless you are sure
Religion is a hot-button topic for any public gathering! With so many opinions and varying beliefs and perspectives, it can be best to give the subject a wide berth altogether. Of course, this doesn't mean some people don't still bring it up - you may overhear bits of heated discussion while queuing in the grocery store or at get-togethers with friends and family. Still, if you do receive an invitation like this, perhaps it’s best to politely decline - unless you really feel like enjoying a fun round of imaginary fire walking!
Your ex - nobody wants to hear about your previous relationships
My exes are the equivalent of a bad joke: sure, it may be amusing to think back on how passionately I used to feel, but when I actually tell it out loud, everybody is like, "who asked?" It's usually best to just keep them tucked away, at least until somebody actually requests details - which would be an extremely unlikely occurrence because whoever really wants details about someone else's failed relationship? Let's just call it quits and keep the ex-anecdotes in the past where they belong.
Money troubles - keep the financial talk for another time
When money troubles are brought up in conversation, it can be a surefire way to bring down the mood of any gathering. It's easy to understand why: no one wants to discuss the uncomfortable. That's why it's best to keep the financial talks for another time - like when you're shopping online at midnight and don't want your family or roommates asking questions!
Your weight or dieting habits - first dates are about getting to know someone, not judging them
When it comes to first dates, I always prepare myself for the worst. After all, what if my date mistakes my interest in their musical tastes for an obsession with calorie counts? I'm never a fan of conversations where my choices are weighed and judged - dieting or weighing yourself is no way to start getting to know someone. That's why I try not to talk about weight on a first date. Now if they bring it up, that's a different story - then I'm ready to laugh off any unfortunate missteps in the conversation!
Sex - it's best to save this topic for later on in the relationship
Regarding relationships, it's good to remember the old saying: "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" In other words, when it comes to sex -- don't rush into things! It's best to take your time in getting to know each other and build up a connection first before taking that next step. Rushing matters of the heart never bodes well, so leave sex off the table until later on and focus on building up a strong relationship. After all, isn't that the goal?
So there you have it, folks. A few topics to avoid on a first date if you want things to go smoothly. Just remember, the key is to get to know each other and have fun! First dates should be about building rapport and getting to know one another, not about having deep conversations about controversial topics. Save those for when you know each other a little better. Do you have any horror stories about first dates gone wrong?
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