Why You’re Not “Too Much” — You’re Just Disconnected from Your Nervous System
Licensed therapist Susanne McAllister explains how anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional reactivity aren’t personal flaws — they’re signs your nervous system is asking for support.
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Jul 12, 2025
Have you ever been told you’re “too sensitive”?
“Too emotional”?
“Too much”?
Or maybe you’ve just told yourself: “I should be able to handle this. Why can’t I just calm down?”
If you’re nodding yes, you’re not alone — and you’re not broken.
According to holistic therapist and author Susanne McAllister, what so many women experience as emotional overload or anxiety is often something far more biological: nervous system dysregulation.
“You’re not too much,” she says. “You’re just in a body that hasn’t felt safe for a very long time.”
The Real Root of Anxiety: A Dysregulated Nervous System
Susanne has spent over two decades supporting women through stress, trauma, grief, and the quiet ache of disconnection. Her approach is grounded in science, but led by soul — and at the center of her work is a simple truth:
Emotional healing starts in the nervous system.
The nervous system — made up of your brain, spine, vagus nerve, and other key pathways — is responsible for regulating your emotional and physiological responses. It tells your body when to fight, flee, freeze, or rest.
But after years (or decades) of chronic stress, people-pleasing, trauma, or high-functioning anxiety, that system becomes dysregulated.
Your body stays stuck in survival mode — even when you’re safe.
The result? You feel:
Anxious for no reason
Overwhelmed by small things
Easily triggered or shut down
Emotionally reactive, drained, or numb
Like you’re always “on,” but never okay
“These aren’t personality flaws,” says Susanne. “They’re nervous system symptoms. And the good news is — they can be healed.”
Healing Begins in the Body — Not Just the Mind
Photo Credit: Susanne McAllister Wellness
Rather than focusing on labels or diagnoses, Susanne guides women back to something deeper: self-regulation through somatic awareness and nervous system education.
Through her 1:1 sessions, Soul Sisters Podcast, and monthly membership (Soul Sisters Inner Circle), she teaches clients how to:
Understand their unique nervous system patterns
Recognize the difference between anxiety and dysregulation
Use breathwork, grounding, and body-based rituals to calm their systems
Reconnect with their intuition and emotional truth
Create safety inside their own bodies
“You don’t need to be fixed — you need to be felt,” she says. “That’s the work. That’s the healing.”
Start With the Quiz: What’s Your Nervous System Type?
To help women begin this journey, Susanne created a powerful free tool:
🌿 Take the Nervous System Quiz
This quick and illuminating quiz reveals how your nervous system responds to stress — and gives you personalized insights into how to begin regulating it.
It’s the perfect starting point for anyone who feels overwhelmed, burnt out, or “too much.”
The Anxiety Detox: A 30-Day Journey to Calm
For those ready to go deeper, Susanne’s latest book, The Anxiety Detox: Therapist Secrets to Zen in 30 Days, offers a practical and soulful roadmap to calming your nervous system — one breath, one page, one day at a time.
Inside you’ll find:
Daily nervous system practices
Breath and body-based tools
Journaling prompts for emotional clarity
Rituals for grounding and self-trust
A gentle approach to healing anxiety at the root
“It’s not about erasing anxiety,” Susanne says. “It’s about finding your way back to safety — and from there, everything softens.”
Introducing The Anxiety Detox 30-Day Healing Journey
For those who want to go deeper into healing their nervous system, Susanne McAllister has created The Anxiety Detox 30-Day Healing Journey.
This structured program blends trauma-informed therapy, somatic tools, and soulful practices to help you heal anxiety at its root. With just 10 minutes a day, you’ll begin to reconnect with your body and calm your nervous system.
At only $37 for lifetime access, it’s an affordable option for anyone looking to embark on a transformative journey toward emotional clarity and calm.
To get started, visit: susannemcallister.com/TheAnxietyDetoxA30DayHealingJourney
The Soul Sisters Inner Circle: Healing in Community
Photo Credit: Susanne McAllister Wellness
For women who want to be supported on this journey, Susanne offers the Soul Sisters Inner Circle — a monthly membership space for nervous system healing, feminine embodiment, and sacred sisterhood.
Each month includes:
Guided nervous system tools
Live Zoom circles with Susanne
Somatic practices and rituals
Community support and co-regulation
A place to be seen, held, and reminded of your wholeness
You Are Not Broken. You Are Becoming.
Whether you’ve been struggling with anxiety for years or just feel like your emotions are too much, Susanne’s work offers a different path — one that is gentle, grounded, and deeply empowering.
“You are not your anxiety,” she says. “You are not too much. You are a woman whose nervous system has been carrying so much — and it’s time to come home to yourself.”
🌿 Take the First Step
📖 Get the Book: The Anxiety Detox → Order on Amazon
🌙 Join the Inner Circle: susannemcallister.com/membership
🎧 Listen to the Podcast: Soul Sisters on Spotify & Apple
📸 Instagram: @susannemcallister
🌐 Website: www.susannemcallister.com
Free Meditations: Insight Timer → [Link Here]
📩 For 1:1 Sessions or Media Inquiries
Email: susannemcallisterwellness@gmail.com
Phone: +61 403 119 977
