Retired Judge Nan S. Famular Releases Hey, What About Me? to Help Children Through Divorce

Retired judge and former family law attorney Nan S. Famular is glad to share the release of her new guide for young readers, Hey, What About Me? It is a reassuring companion for children whose parents are splitting up, offering thoughtful guidance during a time that can bring uncertainty, confusion, and many difficult emotions. Famular writes from decades spent close to families in transition, drawing on her professional experience and personal understanding to address the questions children may struggle to express. She wrote this book for young people who deserve a bigger place in the conversation, along with honest answers, encouragement, and the reassurance that they are not alone in what they are experiencing. 

In Hey, What About Me?, Famular sits down with readers aged 8 to 18 and answers the questions they usually keep to themselves. When a child hears the word “divorce,” dozens of worries rush in at once, yet only a few are ever spoken aloud. This book takes on those quiet questions, and her friendly voice helps young readers feel understood while reminding them that plenty of others go through the very same thing.

Famular’s path to this book runs through a long career. She practiced family law for twenty-five years, then served nineteen years as a judge on the New Jersey Superior Court. During that time she decided custody cases and parenting matters, and she made a point of speaking with the kids themselves. She kept hearing the same fears crop up, and Hey, What About Me? grew out of those conversations. It shares what she wished she could hand each young person on the way out of her courtroom.

The book walks children through many parts of family life after separation. It explains what may happen when parents share the news and how children may react. It also describes how life can change between two homes and why different rules may exist in each household. Later chapters cover friends, school, holidays, sports, money, new family members, and many everyday situations children face afterward.

Throughout the book, Famular reminds young readers that their feelings matter. She urges them to look out for their own well-being and to speak with trusted adults, and she makes it plain that asking for help is a sign of strength. From the first page, the book focuses on helping kids find their footing after the separation, and it gives children the confidence to be heard by the adults who love them.

The book also serves as a useful resource for parents, grandparents, teachers, school counselors, coaches, and caregivers. Adults can use it to open conversations that may feel difficult at first and to better understand what children may be thinking during this time.

Famular’s background gives the book a rare vantage point. She spent years close to these cases in court, and she talks to kids as a person who already understands what they are about to say.

Hey, What About Me? is available now in print and digital editions. Readers can find out more about Nan Famular and her book, along with tips for opening these talks at home, on her official website and social pages.

About Nan S. Famular

Nan S. Famular, P.J. Ch. (Retired), is a former New Jersey Superior Court judge and family-law attorney who spent forty-four years working with divorcing families. She raised five children of her own and calls that role her finest qualification. Through Hey, What About Me?, she hopes to give young readers honest answers and the steady reassurance she believes every child deserves.

To learn more, contact Nan S. Famular at famularmediation@gmail.com.